So about 3 years ago I was 19 years old. I had about $1000 to my name and a part time job as a security agent that paid $9 per hour. I had no education, no desire to study or work. All I wanted to do was travel and pick up chicks. I didn't feel this was possible and I was confused and depressed. I felt powerless.

I was so confused that I had signed up for this crappy life coaching program in Toronto. I wont mention the name but it was very crappy. Yet, the guy was a Millionaire Mind Intensive fan and he brought me along since it was free.

The seminar is 3 days long 10 hours or more a day of interactive talks and exercises (no boring stuff). Those guys are like Tony Robbins. They scream at you and brainwash you into thinking the right way.

Before I had beliefs such as:

"I'm too young to make money"
"I'm too stupid to make money"
"I'm too lazy to make money"
"My English isn't good enough to make money"
"You need money to make money"
"Making money is hard"
"Starting a business isn't possible for me"
"I don't want to be rich. Being rich is useless and not for me"

If you know anything about self improvement you know that with beliefs like that there's no way someone can be financially free aka "travel and pick up chicks" like I wanted to.

So after 30 hours of pure brain washing I eradicated all those beliefs and here's just some of the beliefs I have now:

"I manage my money better than anyone I know"
"Making money is not only easy, it is natural and does not require me to work a lot"
"My money works for me and makes me more money"
"Nothing is impossible in term of money. I can live any lifestyle I want"
"Even if I would happen to lose all my money and passive income sources, it does not matter because I know how to make money and it is not difficult"
"I am intelligent and driven enough to make as much money as my lifestyle requires"
"I am financially free and will always be"

Those are my real beliefs. You can ask my friends if you think I'm lying. They are more than beliefs. They are my convictions.

The seminar made a big difference in the way my life played out. You can sign up here if you want. You can sign up for the same 3 days seminar that I took for $97 (used to be free back in the day) or you can sign up for a one evening talk for free.

So guess what happened right after the seminar. I started working on my business. I had a friend I met while traveling. He introduced me to internet marketing. I didn't know jack at the time. I worked every single hour of everyday for 6 months. Do you think I could have done that with my old beliefs? Of course not I would have given up.

After that, I hired employees and stopped working. I managed my money well and saved and re-invested my profits. Do you think I could have done that with my prior beliefs? No I would have spent all my cash on hookers and blow (just kidding).

I started traveling and working whenever I wanted to. I still work from time to time. I had some rough time last September when all my websites got banned by Google. But I had $20k saved up and 10 trained employees ready to do work for me. So I wasn't screwed, because I had managed my money. Now 8 months later I make the same amount of money I was making before.

So you can imagine how sick my life as been ever since. I've been living a nice lifestyle downtown Montreal and Toronto, doing whatever I want, working out, going out every night and day. I even meditate one hour per day. Who has time to do that?

I lived in Thailand and Asia for 6 months, in Brazil for 2 months, in Florida for 2 months and I am now living in San Francisco. Now the only thing that keeps me from traveling is my love for Montreal and my crazy saving habits.

So anyway if you want to sign up just go here. Like I said before it seems that if you want to get the same 3 days seminar that I took it cost $97 but there is a free option also but it's only one evening.

You know when Ryan talks about cognitive congruence? Well it's all good to understand it and acknowledge that it's important, but yesterday I just realized that I have been experiencing it, a lot. And that it makes a huge difference in my ability to pick up girls.

First of all what is cognitive congruence? I'm not sure exactly but what it means to me is the way you act all day will influence the way you act at night when you go pick up. For example if in your life every time you interact with a human being you kind of shy away and ignore them, chances are when you go out at night it will not be easy to switch to confident and talkative mode. So your brain (cognitive) wouldn't be "congruent".

One thing that I've noticed for months now is that if I don't chill I can't pick up chicks. I mean I can go talk to them. I can touch them. I can make them laugh. But it will never go anywhere. I will never get any girl to actually like me. If I don't chill, I have zero game. If you're new to this you might look at me and think I have "alright" game because I'm approaching and getting reactions and getting my mouth moving. But if you look deeper I'm never building anything. If you look deeper I have no game.

Sometimes I'll hit up the bar and I'll just be in a natural chill state. I'll talk slow. I'll walk slow. When I meet a girl I'll just feel super comfortable with myself and enjoy the moment with her and it will totally work between us. Then I'll be like "OMG I have so much game, Im just chilling all the time and all these girls want me." Guys would ask me "Dave, how do you this, how to do that..." and I would just tell them to chill. They looked at me confused. Some of them told me they couldn't.

Then every once in a while I would go out to the bar and I can't chill. So I go up to girl, start talking to her and my mouth starts moving by itself, spitting crap. I grab the girl and try to take her somewhere even if it's too early, then I give up because I can't just chill and hang out there. I CAN'T! Then I take a pause and I'm like what is this, just chill Dave, you chill all the time, let's do it. Then I go talk to another girl. Can't chill! Again! What the hell. I was very confused by this behavior of mine for a long time. Until I met this Spanish dude.

Basically, one of my friends friend is from Tempa. And he is some kind of Spanish gangster. He talks like a gangster. He walks like a gangster. He calls women "hoes". Anyway you can imagine. So I meet him and he's just talking really slow and taking his time and walking really slow. It's just the way he is. He's always chilling in my definition of chilling. Anyway we met up before going to the bar with all my friends and I didn't think anything of it except that he was gangster and that I like gangsters lol.

Then I noticed throughout the night that every time he would go talk to a girl, he would keep chilling. He would just talk really slow and walk really slow and hang out and be chilling. He didn't have that much game but I'm sure he gets laid every once in a while, especially if he went out more. He was just chilling, making eye contact and listening to what the girl says while having a funny, sexual and low energy conversation. Then I was like, "damn this guy is like me when I'm being good."

At the end of the night, no one pulled any chick. I actually only talked to a few girls because I was to frustrated by my inability to chill and I knew it wouldn't go anywhere because I couldn't chill. Every time I went up to a girl I just kept spitting words and trying to lead her (that might sound good but trust me there MUST be chilling in between lol). F---ing Orlando I don't like it here and it messes with my head. So like I was saying, no one pulled that night and we were just hanging out after and still Spanish gangster is just chilling and enjoying life and he's just like "tonight was fun, I talked to a lot of hoes" in his gangster accent. I was quite envious of him at that moment and understood how others felt around me when I was being chill all the time. But why couldn't I be????

Then it hit me. Cognitive congruence. This guy is chill all the time, so how hard can it be for him to be chill when he goes to the bar to talk to women. Pretty damn easy. He doesn't have to change a thing. If you actually asked this guy to be a dancing monkey, I'm sure he would find it really difficult. Then I realized that when I have a very easy time to be chill is when I am chill all the time. When I had just come from my 10 days meditation retreat I was chill all the time because I had just spent 10 days chilling and meditating. I took my time to do everything because that's what I was used to doing. When you're at a meditation retreat, you can't do anything so even when you take a walk it's like a great event, you don't rush it because there's nothing to do afterward.

Also when I was in Montreal I was getting laid a lot and hanging out with girls a lot so during those times I was chilling all the time. Also I didn't work on my computer as much as I've been doing here which to me is an anti chill because when I work I always try to rush things and do 10000000 things at a time. So to me, if I chill in my everyday life, even when I'm walking to the toilet to take a piss or eating my bowl of cereal. If I do those things slowly and in a chill way. Which to a lot of you would refer to as "being in the moment" while doing them, then when I go out at night it will be super easy to be chill and pick up the ladies.

So if you have some kind of state of mind or something that helps you pick up girls (or helps your overall happiness), then you probably want to incorporate it in every moment of your life, this way it will be second nature to do it at the club and you will have lots of success.

What you do is every time you have a thought that is negative or even slightly positive, you reframe it to something overly optimistic, something delusional. You do it for 7 days. If you fail to reframe it instantly, you lose and start over again.

A good example would be if you go try to pick up a chick and she tells you you're ugly and runs away, you think to yourself that this girl loved you and that you could have slept with her easily if you wanted to. If someone asks "but she ran away, didn't you want to sleep with her?" You would tell him that you just weren't interested.

Some call it being mentally ill. Some call it lying. I call it having a strong reality.

Every human being is filled with tremendous potential and abilities, yet too often they go unrealized because of our failure to break free from the social conditions designed to perpetuate avenues of personal failure rather than avenues for actualization and transformation. Also, instead of focusing on narratives of fame, wealth, "just rewards" and getting ahead, we would be better served focusing on narratives of meaning, based on love, compassion, justice, and human freedom.