What would I do right now if I was a complete loser like you
So I've been reading lots of posts about people being complete losers. What I mean by that is, no girls, no money, no lifestyle, no health, no happiness.
You guys are f***ing losers. It's time for a change.
If you don't know me, I'm a cool ass African American (I'm not actually black).
I f*** tons of girls, I have money working for me (I don't work), I have awesome friends, I'm pretty fit and I travel pretty often which is what I like. I'm also an intern for RSD. Oh and I'm 21, and I used to be a loser just like you.
So if you are a complete loser in all areas of life and want a cool ass life in 1 year from now, 2 years from now, you need to start doing the following:
1. Move to a cheap city with a good weather, good night life and good working opportunity. Have a place with your own room near the bars and clubs. No suburb BS or shitty city.
2. Make good friends that like to go out and that encourage or pick up girls with you. I don't care if they are faggots with no game. They have to be good friends, you have to love them, and you need to go out with them.
3. Start going out minimum 4 nights a week. All night. You don't count the number of sets you open. Its a marathon, not a sprint. You open all night until you leave, and you leave when the bar closes and there is no more girls on the street. Don't go out alone and do 4 approaches. That shit doesn't work. Make friends. Beast all night.
4. Money: Start working on your money situation. Make money with a job, and invest your money into passive income streams. You will need to learn and specialize in one or a few income streams. Passive income are things like Websites (internet marketing), Buildings, Laundry mats, Vending machines, TVs with ads, Stocks, a business that you own, etc. You need to learn and specialize. And you need a f***ing job first to invest your money. Work at Mc Donald's if you don't have education I don't care. Live cheaply. No iphones, no blazers, no cars, nothing. You invest all the money you can and you eat rammens.
5. Read self help books, especially the ones recommended by the pua community. Those books will teach you game alone. Don't hang out on forums the only people giving advice on there don't get laid. Don't read pua ebooks, they only want to make money and they don't know shit. You want to be reading at least 10 books a year.
6. Work out and eat healthy. Do crossfit or P90X or anything you want. You need to get in shape. Getting laid isn't fun unless you are in shape. You don't want to die young. You want to be healthy. Its so important. Work out at least 3 times a week and more depending on what you do. If you need to lose weight, eat healthy and stop over eating and drinking (alchool and coke) you fat f***.
7. Start meditating. At least 20 minutes a day. Meditation will make your game 1000 times better. Brad does it. I don't know why it works. It just does. It's magical.
8. At some point take an RSD bootcamp. It will fix some of your game problem and make you get laid more.
9. Forget about TV, computer games, masturbating, eating donuts and all the things you think are fun. They are not fun. They are making you more of a loser every single day.
That's all. That's my life. Do that for a couple of years and you'll be a very rich, very successful and very happy man.
Game in your natural state (Epic post)
First of all, I would like to say that this is an epic post.
Did you know that it was possible to wake up in the morning and go out on the street BY YOURSELF and meet a girl and make a connection instantly?
Did you know that it was possible to feel harmonious and peaceful all the time?
Did you know that you can be in a pick up kind of mind even after working for 10 hours or with no sleep for 2 days?
Did you know that it could be 100% normal to pick up the phone and call a girl that you just met, go have a drink and sleep with her?
All that while remaining in your normal state of mind?
That's what I call gaming in your natural state of mind. To me the natural state of mind would be when you wake up in the morning. It also includes when you're hungry, tried, sad, happy, whatever.
Your state of mind is your state of mind. It doesn't actually change. It's like a switch that's on and off. It's the same switch, just at a slightly different angle.
By putting emphasis on the fact that the switch is on, you automatically put emphasis on the fact that it will be off. By putting emphasis on the fact that you're in a good state, you're putting emphasis on the fact that you will be in a bad state.
If you just put emphasis on the fact that you're state is normal, then you're putting emphasis on the fact that your state will be normal. State can't be abnormal. It's like a switch. It can be on and off. But it can't be abnormal. It's just a switch.
Actually, I just say normal but even no qualifier would be even better. Just state. Not good. Not bad. Not normal. This way. It can't go in any direction.
Emotions, feelings and sensations come and go. It's their nature. Pain is merely a feeling. Fatige is merely a sensation. Happiness is merely an emotion. Why would you focus on something that is so ephemeral? Wake up people! This doesn't make sense.
Look at whatever you're feeling and just look at it. Don't put emphasis on it by talking about it, labelling it, hating it or even LOVING it. Love for a sensation brings craving which brings desire which brings unsatisfaction wich brings you not picking up and taking action and calling your numbers and approaching which brings you to not getting laid.
I'll tell you a story.
It's about a little man called Dave. Dave loves being in state. He goes out with friends. Picks up women. Has fun. Loves life. He feels soooo happy.
Next day Dave wakes up. He feels tired. He doesn't call his numbers. He doesn't feel like it. He feels like working on the computer. He feels even more like crap after working for 8 hours. He goes out at night with his friends. He pumps his state by doing funny things. He loves life again. He's so happy. He feels like picking up so much. He picks up women all night.
Next day he feels like crap again. Dave thinks to himself I should go pick up chicks today. But I don't feel like it. I should work today. But I don't feel like it. Dave thinks "I should travel."
Dave travels to Brazil. Dave LOVES travelling. He feels so happy. After 1 month. Dave feels like crap in brazil. He comes home. He LOVES...
Do you see where this is going? Do you see the pattern? Dave loves and hates too much. As much as Dave loves, as much as Dave hates. Makes him very unhappy and unfocused. He feels like he has no direction or purpose.
So how does this relate to pick up?
Everyone I know in the community refers to "being in state" as something positive to picking up women.
I am sorry to break your bubble of delusion but this is not something positive. If you can be in state, it obviously means that you can be out of state.
If being in state is your default state and you're just in state all the time then you are talking about the same thing as me. You are actually gaming in your natural state, you just choose to use a different way of saying it.
The power of gaming in your natural state is that:
1.You will be more consistant because you will never be on or off. You will only be.
2.You will go out more because you will never be on or off. You will only be.
3.Your game is going to get better SUPER fast because you will be going out a lot. Gaming all the time everywhere.
4.You will pursue numbers and dates any time of the day because you will never be on or off. You will only be.
5.You will have more focus, strenght, harmony and centeredness in your life which is insanely attractive to women.
6.You will get laid a lot more because you will not miss those opportunities that you miss all the time when you're off.
7.You will glow in the dark. (Results may vary)
How do you game in your natural state?
You need to upgrade your level of awerness and harmonious feeling in everyday life.
You do this by being concentrated on your body and thoughts as much as you can. When you feel a sensation of pain or pleasure. You tried to stay as unreactive as possible. You just look and notice. You don't react positively or negatively. Same thing with any sensation such as fatigue, joy, sadness, stress, boredom, excitement, etc. Don't put a label on them. Pain isn't bad. It's merely a sensation. Pleasure is not good, it's merely a sensation.
Just try your best. No one is perfect. Actively doing it when you're alone, working, and stuff like that will make you better at it, hence improve the amount of time you spend in your natural state. You can do it anywhere, anytime, doing anything.
It will improve your natural state because like most poeple, if you're not feeling good, you're probably feeling bad. Do you feel good waking up, walking down the street, right after work? Maybe not, and this will help you. It won't make you feel good. It will make you feel normal, neutral.
Then you want to lower the amount of "happy state" you're using when you go out.
Here's what I did:
I went out alone and I stopped self amusing.
This might seem harsh but it will truely teach you to game in your natural state as in my opinion the 2 things that change your state the most is the presence of your wing and self amusement. If you need this to pick up, then you are attached to it, then you crave it, then you feel happy when you have it and sad when you don't. A good exercise is to go out alone and not self amuse. Just be chill and strait to the point with the chick.
Basically, you want to slowly implement letting go off the positive and negative state that you have when you're going out. You want to level it out. If you're too happy, tone it down, if you're too sad, self amuse a little. All this in order to be in your normal state.
Once you start doing that, picking up becomes kind of a meditation. Everything becomes kind of a meditation.
Starting to game in my normal state was pretty natural for me, what else can someone do to start being more like that? Please comment!
1 person in 20 is under hypnosis reading this. Is it you?
I am not a hypnotist but I have read on the subject and one of the first thing you learn is that people are of different kind of suggestibility. The rarer kind which 1 in 20 people is called "somnambulist" (nothing to do with the sleeping disorder in the hypnosis world).
Those people tend to fall under hypnosis very easily. They are very easy to recognize for trained hypnotists and they are the reason that staged hypnotism works. The stage hypnotist spots people who are like that in the audience and chooses them for his show.
I believe I am of this suggestibility myself because I often notice myself drifting into a suggestibility state at random moments. I find this very dangerous because if you look at the world today and the way people are talking and acting, it is very negative and limiting.
Most people don't really believe they (or even others) can do anything cool or exceptional with their life. They often foresee the worse possible outcome instead of the optimal possible future reality.
A common example would be someone saying "I hope we won't be late for the show" and another one saying "It's awesome we'll be in time to the show for sure at this rate". They are both living the same situation but they see it in different ways. Their inner talk is different. Their Reality is different. Yet it is the same from an objective point of view.
We are also bombarded with advertising which don't really help our subconscious to feel fulfilled and happy. Since most advertising rely on the idea that you lack something and need to buy it (nice car, fit body, etc.).
So think about it, unless most of your friends and family are very positive people and you hide yourself from TVs and the like, even if you are yourself a very positive person, you're pretty much getting getting hypnotized into being sad.
I think this applies to everyone but especially to those who are of the "somnambulist" suggestibility because while everyone has moments during their day were they drift into hypnosis (hypnosis is a natural state that everyone experiences daily to some extent), those people are suggestible more of the time.
If you have never been hypnotized by a professional it is hard to know when you are drifting or not but here are some things that happens in your body when you do:
- Your breathing changes.
- Your eyes move rapidly under your eyelids. (When you close them.)
I highly recommend hypnosis for everyone as it is fun and relaxing as well as very helpful with whatever issue you might have.
Hypnosis occurs when your mind is overloaded with messages. Things such as fatigue influence how many messages your mind can handle before slipping into hypnosis. There are levels of hypnosis and you won't necessarily feel it unless you know what it feels like and pay close attention. Your mind will always reject harmful suggestions but some suggestions that don't necessarily seem harmful at first might still get accepted as truth by your subconscious. Things such as negative thoughts and limiting beliefs that aren't necessarily harmful and sometimes make sense. I don't know about you but I would rather live in a world where I think anything is possible, then in a world where I think that some things are out of my reach.
What I find to be a solution for people like me (and a bonus for people of other suggestibility) is:
- Don't hang out with people with negative speech unless you have to. Avoid them whenever you feel yourself being tired or suggestible.
- Talk more, listen less with people that don't talk about stuff you don't believe and don't want to start believing. It is a douche move and won't make you many friends but you will surround yourself with people that think like you and in the way you want to grow.
- Download or purchase some hypnosis audio about self confidence, happiness, inner power, etc. Those aren't quite as good as seeing a professional hypnotist but since I tend to fall into hypnosis easily I really feel a boost from listening to them everyday. To me it's my own little counter attack to the bad influence of my surrounding world.
How to find your purpose in life
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What are these blotches that mar your perfection?
They represent the little things that you take for who you are: Your likes, dislikes, loves, hatreds. They are the history that you can’t let go of. They are your memories, your hopes and dreams. They are your little habits, your hobbies, your mannerisms. All these, each one a mark, combine to make your personality, your ego, your identity.