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Riding the emotionnal wave

I think almost everyone has something weird or creepy or not calibrated about them when they are picking up chicks.

And I think if you really want to be successful at this you need to be able to see it. You need to be able to see the emotion that you make the girls feel. This is something that Jeff talks about in his bootcamp.

An example is like Alex in the video that got leaked. I've never met Alex but in this video he is way over self amusing and high energy and it's just the way he is. But if you remember he tells the girl something like "Ok maybe you think this is a little weird but I was conceived to this song and I really feel the love right now". And throughout the video he keeps making references to other men in australia being pussies and that he doesn't like that.

So the girl is kind of weirded out by this strange man that just came and talked to her, but she can rationalize that he is like that because of what he said and that it's normal. So she is not creeped out anymore and she can fully enjoy Alex's good sides even if they are outside of her reality.

But does he have to do it with all the girls? I don't think so, I think some of them will just fully love him when he's like that. They wont even question it they'll think that shit is normal.

So if he didn't calibrate his approach by saying that stuff then he would only pull chicks that love that side of him and don't judge it.

So some girls will love that side of you that is different or uncalibrated, but you will end up losing a lot of them fast unless you see it, and calibrate it to the girl.

This is why people that game like robot just spitting things at girls (whether is was a routine, improvised shit or caveman kino) suck at picking up chicks. They are just going through the moves without looking at how they make the women feel. This is something that Jeff talks about in his posts and bootcamps so I didn't pull it out of nowhere.

Yes you need to ignore the shit test, but you cant ignore what they feel.

I'll never reply logically to a woman's "You're creepy". But if I feel she is creeped out I will proactively do something to change it. That is the difference. If she says it she's testing you. If she feels it it's different, she's not testing you, that's how you're making her feel and she will probably leave soon unless you do something.

How it works for me is that I always get way too close to them too quickly and talk in their ears and hold their waist.

Some girls love that shit. Some girls think it's creepy as fuck. So with the girls that think it's creepy I make some kind of rationalization for them like "Oh Im sorry Im from Canada and this is my first day here Im really excited." Could be anything it's just the one I've been using this week.

So the fact that I can get away with being so close to them so quickly it's so powerful because maybe she gets comfortable around me quickly, or turned on or she rationalizes that she likes me or I dunno. Same with Alex, the fact that he can get away with being so self amusing and spitting so many words, Im sure it helps him a lot, Im not sure how lol but whatever.

Anyway I hope this makes sense, this is something that is not talked about very often here and I think it's massively important. Jeff refers to it as "Riding the emotionnal wave". I think it's important that there is an expression for it so that people put a label on the concept and internalize it.