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Mad World – Gary Jules

I freaking love that song. You should take a break from reading and just listen to it one more time.

Posted 26 October 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (0) ° Tagged: , ,

Dave’s golden rule of pick up

RSD (Real Social Dynamics)’s golden rule is that “Whatever you feel, she feels.” This rule is crucial but I push it one bit further with my golden rule:

Your state of mind is everything.

The reason behind this is simple. You can’t lie or fake what you’re feeling. If you feel nervous. You will look nervous. But that’s fine you can be nervous and be attractive. If you feel like you can’t sleep with the girl, you will look like you can’t. And that is not fine.

When you walk around looking for girls, in the bar or on the street, think to yourself that you can sleep with them. That you can pick them up. Easily. Allow yourself to think “I can sleep with that girl if I wanted to and if I went and talked to her.” Have a grin on your face. Have the relaxed and piercing eyes that a man that knows he can sleep with a girl has. But don’t focus on those body language elements. Focus on how you feel. Your body language will come naturally. Put yourself in that state of mind of when you knew you could sleep with that girl.

Walk around repeating to yourself “Yes, it’s on”. When you see a girl you like, instantly think “I can sleep with her. Easily.” Then when you go talk to her keep that feeling by repeating in your head that it’s on.

What will happen is that all the important stuff such as body language, tonality, smile, eye contact, funny non logical talking, statements of intent, etc. will all take care of themselves naturally because you’re in that state of mind.

Feeling overly happy doesn’t help that much to pick up chicks. You will make the chick feel happy but that’s all. What you need to be feeling is that you can pick her up. Right now. For sure. Tonight. Bring her home. If you feel that, the girl will like you for sure and she’ll go home with you a lot of the times. If you’re just in state and feeling good but you aren’t feeling that you can do it. You’ll just roll up to them, make them feel good and there will be no pick up. Of course your feelings change through the night so you could open with just feeling good then move into the “I can pull” mode which is what I’ve been doing most of the time, but why not just feel like that from the start? It works a lot better.

And if you can’t feel that way, it means you’re not good enough at lying to yourself. You’re not good enough at controlling your own state. I think it’s an essential skill because life requires us to be in different state of mind all the time. Just practice it all the time, anywhere, for no reason. Try to make yourself feel happy, or like a pimp, or relaxed, or excited just sitting on a chair. Your thoughts becomes feelings. Think about happy stuff, you will feel happy. Think like a pimp, you will feel like a pimp. If every time you see a hot girl, you lie to yourself and tell yourself that you can sleep with her and smile, You will start feeling that way. Because thoughts become feelings. Here’s a good quote that has become internet famous:

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Posted 09 October 2009 † Dave § Meeting women ‡ Comments (5) ° Tagged: ,

Adsense templates series (Free Adsense ready templates)

The most important thing to make good money with Google Adsense is ad placement. Your ads need to blend with your site and they need to be near your content. The best ad spots are above the fold and near the center of the page.

To make it easy for you, I will be sharing Adsense ready templates where you only need to put your Publisher ID and you’ll be ready to start earning with an optimized theme. Those themes will guarantee you the highest CTRs. The first three are Wordpress themes. I will be sharing other kinds of templates in the future. Click here to learn about Wordpress.

**NEW** I just uploaded 3 HTML templates for people who are still using them. See the bottom of the page to download.

The Adsense templates series Number 1 (Wordpress theme)

Number 1 can be used for pretty much any niche. It has a grey background and one sidebar on the left. There is a text ad over the content and a text/image ad in the sidebar. The ad over the content disappears on pages and posts to give place for a text ad within the content. You can see a demo here. You can download it directly and at no cost here.

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The Adsense templates series Number 2 (Wordpress theme)

Number 2 is also neutral looking and could be used for any market. It has a white background and two sidebars on each sides. It uses ad blocks in the sidebars and in the content. You can see a demo here. You can download it directly and at no cost here.

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The Adsense templates series Number 3 (Wordpress theme)

Number 3 is kind of a cosy theme. It’s easy on the eyes and it has a nice finish to it. It has a white background and two sidebars on the right. One of the sidebars has an ad block in it and there are ad blocks in the content of the posts and pages. You can see a demo here. You can download it directly and at no cost here.

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HTML templates

I am not sure if people are still using those nowadays but I have them floating around so I’ll share them.

Number 1 (HTML)

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Number 2 (HTML)

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Number 3 (HTML)

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Posted 05 October 2009 † Dave § Making money online ‡ Comments (34) ° Tagged: , , , ,

Seven Pounds (2008) movie review

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I just watched the movie Seven Pounds and I thought it was amazing. It’s a bit sad but not in the sense that it makes you think that life sucks. It makes you think that life is amazing and how lucky you are to be living with whatever you have. It’s about a guy who feels guilty for something he did and then gives his life to helping those people he feels are good and deserve his help.

It made me want to do stuff. To get out of my house. It made me want to give. I don’t know why but right after seeing this movie it makes total sense to me to spend a life helping others.

It also remembered me how any things I want to do, see and learn before I die. It also made me feel like I’m wasting my life because even though my life is cool and fun, it could be so much more. Who is living life at 100%? Are you? I don’t think I am and I would like to. This movie will probably lead to a blog post about all the things I want to do before I die.

I think it’s a must see movie and you can download it online with Bittorrent. Simple head to http://isohunt.com/ and search for Seven Pounds.

Posted 05 October 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (0) ° Tagged: , ,

7 days delusional challenge

You might have heard of the 7 days positivity challenge, well I’m announcing the 7 days delusional challenge.

What you do is every time you have a thought that is negative or even slightly positive, you reframe it to something overly optimistic, something delusional. You do it for 7 days. If you fail to reframe it instantly, you lose and start over again.

A good example would be if you go try to pick up a chick and she tells you you’re ugly and runs away, you think to yourself that this girl loved you and that you could have slept with her easily if you wanted to. If someone asks “but she ran away, didn’t you want to sleep with her?” You would tell him that you just weren’t interested.

Some call it being mentally ill. Some call it lying. I call it having a strong reality.

Posted 04 October 2009 † Dave § Meeting women ‡ Comments (3) ° Tagged: , , ,

Learn Spanish by watching your favorite shows online

I’ve been using this amazing site for a little while to watch popular TV shows online in Spanish. I think it has more than 100 shows and you can most of the time either watch them in streaming on megvideo.com or download them from megaupload.com. Even if it’ enjoyable, watching TV is mostly a waste of time. Well not anymore since you’ll be learning Spanish at the same time. Just check it out for yourself. Click here to watch TV shows in Spanish online.

Posted 04 October 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (0) ° Tagged: , ,

If you’ve never failed, you’ve never lived

Every human being is filled with tremendous potential and abilities, yet too often they go unrealized because of our failure to break free from the social conditions designed to perpetuate avenues of personal failure rather than avenues for actualization and transformation. Also, instead of focusing on narratives of fame, wealth, “just rewards” and getting ahead, we would be better served focusing on narratives of meaning, based on love, compassion, justice, and human freedom.

Posted 03 October 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (1) ° Tagged: , , ,

The definition of a Solid Interaction with a woman

I think lots of guys don’t understand what a solid interaction is. Since it’s not always possible to get laid with the chick right in the moment or sometimes I guess I just don’t have enough “Game”, the only thing you can have for sure is a Solid Interaction.

The most important thing for me

The energy level of the interaction. If the energy is INSANELY low. Such as you and the chick are talking quietly, about boring stuff, you’re not moving much, you guys talking slowly, etc. That would be very low.

The opposite of that would be called High Energy. Example: being too funny, too attractive, too interesting, talking about sex, the girl laughs, touches you, you push her, you tease her, etc. Basically all the things we are told to do as PUAs? Yes that’s what I think, all those things are crap IMO and should be used very sporadically and in the first few minutes only and not at all if you get the chick to like you without them. Those things Look good because the chick is loving you but really she’s not loving you but the energy and emotion that you bring. The next day I think she would most likely remember her night as amazing, but not you as amazing.

So the plan would be to do all the moves in a low energy. So you open really strong with good body language and a smile, but you keep it really chill. You keep the conversation borderline boring. You touch (claw, hold hands, hugs, etc.) just as usual. You lead just as usual which should be a lot. You go get drinks (waters for me), dance (you dance in a chill way), you go outside for a cigarette (even if you don’t smoke, just to chill), you go explore the bar, you go find your friends (and her friends), you go to the toilet (or she goes, you lead her to it and wait while chilling with other people, make new friends if you have to), you do everything together, never leave her. Of course she will need to hang out with her friends and other guys will hit on her and stuff will happen. Just chill and let her be, but keep an eye on her and whenever you have something to tell her just go get her and you guys can chill again.

It will be REAL for her, and for you

If you do this you should be making out within 20 minutes-1hour and it will be REAL. Why? Because she was in her normal state of mind, and so were you. She was in the same state of mind (almost) that when she wakes up in the morning. Why? Because you didn’t boost it with your crazy energy and fun. There won’t be a point where the energy goes lower and it feels weird for both of you and she leaves because she comes to her senses and realizes that this feeling was ephemeral and not real. Of course it looks good to be making out with a chick in 5 minutes and making her laugh until she jumps on you. But I could never make those high energy interactions work for me.

So is that it? Solid = low energy?

This is what I believe. If you have time to lead, touch, firth and have a good vibe and connection then it will be even more solid. If you extract her out of the bar it will be even more solid. If you sleep with her it will be pretty freaking solid lol.

So I don’t understand, won’t it be boring if I’m being low energy and talking about boring stuff?

There’s 2 scenarios:

1. The chick loves you from the first 5 seconds and you can just chill from start to end.

2.The chick needs some time which then being interesting, fun and high energy is quite good and you should definitely do it. As soon as you have the chance to chill and lay back I would jump on it though because up to now I don’t think the interaction was real nor solid.

What about after when it’s time to chill? Won’t it be boring?

I’m a pretty freaking cool guy. I have an interesting life, I’m funny, I’m good looking. I will say something funny, sexual and interesting every 5-10-20 minutes for sure. I actually have to tone myself not to be too funny or interesting because it blows myself out. Even if I’m just self amusing the chick thinks I’m trying to be cool and doesn’t work.

Also realize that every time you touch the girl, you move her around, you lead her, every time you don’t react to a comment or an event (friends interrupting, tools stealing the chick, your own friends being retards, etc.) the girl’s energy has a Boost. Every time you tell her she’s beautiful or that you really want to kiss her or that you lead her to the bar. Boost. So in my everyday life there is enough energy boost. Actually too much. I’m sure it’s the same for most guys here actually.

One last thing

I think most guys are so addicted to feedback from women that they can’t do this. Realize that if the interaction is low energy the girl will not be laughing, touching you, telling you you’re funny, intensely qualifying herself, etc. She will be doing some but way less and PUAs just assume it’s not on and peace out. THIS IS NONSENSE. You need to be able to chill with the girl for 20 minutes+, keep your “It’s on” mentality (If you lose it, she loses it), even if she doesn’t give you any intense feedback. My proof is look at couples. They love each other. They f–k each other. Yet do you see them being high energy and teasing each other and giving each others feedback? No. They look bored as hell all the time. Often barely speak. Do you think you have more chance with his chick just because you can roll up to them and make her laugh and makeout with her?

People are boring… if you boost the girl’s energy she’ll feel amazing. She’ll be funny, her best self… But the next day when she just feels normal, or even 2 hours later when it’s time to leave the bar. She’ll just feel like her old boring self. And you can’t just keep boosting the energy and make her laugh. It’s not a long term strategy. The girl finds out at some point. She comes to her senses.

One tip

If you’re comfortable with the girl, always be holding hand or touching (kind of like petting a dog lol). I mean like a constant thing, not always going for the touch and pulling back. I mean always be in physical contact. Make her touch you too. Put her hand on your leg and stuff like that. This will make a low energy interaction very smooth because since you are always touching there is no disconnect. You guys “know” you like each other, so there’s no need to prove it with words and laugh and everything else. You and the girl don’t even have to ping at each other to see if it’s still on because you are touching. It protects you and the girl from doubts about whether it’s on or not (It’s always on).

Posted 02 October 2009 † Dave § Meeting women ‡ Comments (2) ° Tagged: ,

1 person in 20 is under hypnosis reading this. Is it you?

I am not a hypnotist but I have read on the subject and one of the first thing you learn is that people are of different kind of suggestibility. The rarer kind which 1 in 20 people is called “somnambulist” (nothing to do with the sleeping disorder in the hypnosis world).

Those people tend to fall under hypnosis very easily. They are very easy to recognize for trained hypnotists and they are the reason that staged hypnotism works. The stage hypnotist spots people who are like that in the audience and chooses them for his show.

I believe I am of this suggestibility myself because I often notice myself drifting into a suggestibility state at random moments. I find this very dangerous because if you look at the world today and the way people are talking and acting, it is very negative and limiting.

Most people don’t really believe they (or even others) can do anything cool or exceptional with their life. They often foresee the worse possible outcome instead of the optimal possible future reality.

A common example would be someone saying “I hope we won’t be late for the show” and another one saying “It’s awesome we’ll be in time to the show for sure at this rate”. They are both living the same situation but they see it in different ways. Their inner talk is different. Their Reality is different. Yet it is the same from an objective point of view.

We are also bombarded with advertising which don’t really help our subconscious to feel fulfilled and happy. Since most advertising rely on the idea that you lack something and need to buy it (nice car, fit body, etc.).

So think about it, unless most of your friends and family are very positive people and you hide yourself from TVs and the like, even if you are yourself a very positive person, you’re pretty much getting getting hypnotized into being sad.

I think this applies to everyone but especially to those who are of the “somnambulist” suggestibility because while everyone has moments during their day were they drift into hypnosis (hypnosis is a natural state that everyone experiences daily to some extent), those people are suggestible more of the time.

If you have never been hypnotized by a professional it is hard to know when you are drifting or not but here are some things that happens in your body when you do:

  1. Your breathing changes.
  2. Your eyes move rapidly under your eyelids. (When you close them.)

I highly recommend hypnosis for everyone as it is fun and relaxing as well as very helpful with whatever issue you might have.

Hypnosis occurs when your mind is overloaded with messages. Things such as fatigue influence how many messages your mind can handle before slipping into hypnosis. There are levels of hypnosis and you won’t necessarily feel it unless you know what it feels like and pay close attention. Your mind will always reject harmful suggestions but some suggestions that don’t necessarily seem harmful at first might still get accepted as truth by your subconscious. Things such as negative thoughts and limiting beliefs that aren’t necessarily harmful and sometimes make sense. I don’t know about you but I would rather live in a world where I think anything is possible, then in a world where I think that some things are out of my reach.

What I find to be a solution for people like me (and a bonus for people of other suggestibility) is:

  1. Don’t hang out with people with negative speech unless you have to. Avoid them whenever you feel yourself being tired or suggestible.
  2. Talk more, listen less with people that don’t talk about stuff you don’t believe and don’t want to start believing. It is a douche move and won’t make you many friends but you will surround yourself with people that think like you and in the way you want to grow.
  3. Download or purchase some hypnosis audio about self confidence, happiness, inner power, etc. Those aren’t quite as good as seeing a professional hypnotist but since I tend to fall into hypnosis easily I really feel a boost from listening to them everyday. To me it’s my own little counter attack to the bad influence of my surrounding world.
Posted 02 October 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (0) ° Tagged: , ,

How to find your purpose in life

This is by far my favorite website on the internet. Written by a psychology student, it helps you find happiness, purpose and everything else really. Click here to find your purpose in life.

What are these blotches that mar your perfection?

They represent the little things that you take for who you are: Your likes, dislikes, loves, hatreds. They are the history that you can’t let go of. They are your memories, your hopes and dreams. They are your little habits, your hobbies, your mannerisms. All these, each one a mark, combine to make your personality, your ego, your identity.

Posted 27 September 2009 † Dave § Other stuff ‡ Comments (0) ° Tagged: ,