During my bootcamp Ryan told me that at some point he realized that he was game, and that no one could make a decision or say a better line for him then himself. It wasn’t that big of a realization at the time but still ever since he said that, I have not asked any question about game whatsoever to anyone. My reason is that looking back, this has never ever helped. Everyone is different. Everyone is at a different level. There is no optimal move. No optimal thing to say. Actually, whatever you do or say is quite irrelevant to any pick up. The only thing that matters is what you feel and what you are. Since this is the root of everything, it will produce the fruits. If your roots suck it will produce bad fruits. No matter how you try to disguise the fruit’s taste with sugar it will not taste as good as a good fruit.
There is no actual problems, sticking points or situations that you’re having. It’s all in the way you see things. It’s all about your reality. When a question about game arises in my mind, I’m not thinking “Oh, let’s go ask the RSD guys“. When a question arises, I see a solution. I see something that I should try. Like for example last week I was wondering about leading. I found that if I’m dancing with a girl and it’s a 2 set, leading isn’t always good stuff. So I felt like asking Ryan about it. Then I thought “Why not try it instead?” So that’s what I’ve been doing. I lead when the opportunity is good and I feel like it, but I don’t force it. I also let the girl lead me a lot. It works pretty good with 2 sets at the moment. I’ll see what happens in the future.
I’ll look at some topics or RSDN right now:
How fast are you supposed to be escalating?
Do you really think it matters how fast? Do you really think there is an optimal answer for that? Do you really think that someone other then you can answer better than you on this? I could answer this but that would be from my point of view, my experience, from me. That would be almost useless information for this person UNLESS he is so uncreative that he can’t even try for himself to either escalate slow or fast. At some point in my game I had the same question. So I tried to escalate a lot. Didn’t work, it was too high energy, too much of an emotional spike too fast and the girl would leave when she came down from it. Then I tried the opposite, too slow. I found out that slow works out pretty good for me. And that slow actually often result in 1 hour make outs which is perfect. I also found out that I don’t need to touch at all really if my conversation vibe with the girl is very good. I also found out that touching has an amazing vibing, attraction creating, and emotional bounding value. When you touch girls they feel like they can trust you. They feel like they don’t have to talk, to impress you with words. They feel like you don’t have to talk either. All this stuff I could have never learned from someone else. Because it’s my game. I’m learning me.
Another one:
How to get over a girl?
Do you really think there’s one thing that will make anyone get over any girl? Everyone is different, of course not. If you keep doing the same thing, you’ll keep getting the same result. So the only way to change your fate is to try new things. The things that you personally will come up with are the best solutions for you. For me, I would just try to find another one first to see if that fixes the problem. But what if the guy can’t pick up because he sucks. Then another one would say meditate. What if the guy can’t mediate. Everyone is speaking the truth, but his own truth. It’s kind of like when Buddha became illuminated. He told everyone about how he did it and how to do it, but only those who followed the path and experienced everything actually became illuminated like him. The others who would just listen and do nothing would not get any benefits. The path to illumination was to meditate for hours everyday and notice bit by bit the truth of the world. No one can do that for you.
Another one:
How important is CONSTANT social interaction?
Do you think there is a CONSTANT answer for that? Of course not. Everyone is different. For some it helps their game a million. For some it doesn’t really make a difference. At some point in my game I had the same question. So I tried going out everyday. Then I stopped going out for six months. Then I tried once a week. The things I learned were so precious. Nothing that anyone could teach me. I learned about me. I learned that I can get burned out of going out. I learned that I sometimes forget about game and become rusty. I also learned that fatigue affects game, but that fatigue comes and goes throughout the night, so I take breaks where I just chill with my friends or with a fatty. Then I tried to be constantly talking when I go out. Constantly in sets and running my mouth. Then I tried to chill a lot in between interactions. I found out that constantly talking was very good at first because it would get me and keep me in state. I also found out I didn’t need it any more when I was always in state by default. I also found out I would rather talk less, and let the girl talk. To save my voice, and my energy. Then I found out that girls like me a lot more when I talk less, probably because I am more mysterious, meaningful and chill that way.
Can you start to see the pattern in those? The answer is always dependant on you. The answer is always you should TRY IT. You should try new stuff. You should try everything. It will bring you the truth. It will teach you your game. It will teach you you.
So why should you never ask any pick up advice?
Because you already know the answer. I’m 100% serious. You do know the answer. Everyone of you is your own guru. You just need to either think for a while, or try new things in field randomly and pretty often and you will come to your own realizations. You won’t learn game. You will learn your game. It is pretty freaking hard to learn someone’s game, and I don’t see the point. I invent game. I make up my own moves. My own pick up lines. When the average RSD guy just tries whatever he reads on RSDNation, I try random stuff when going out and see if it works out for me or not. By doing that, I realized a few things. First of all it really doesn’t matter what I do or say because I often get the same results from very different things. Also, I realized that by trying new things I’m growing. I’m actively becoming who I am. And finally, that everything that I know, all of my game, I learned it from me. Everything I read on pick up boards, everything everyone ever told me, was a waste of my time. It actually held me back. I learned a lot FROM those things, but I didn’t learn those things. Sometimes someone would tell me something and I would try it and it would totally work and totally teach me something valuable, but in the end, I could have thought of it myself, and tried it, and improved.
What if you read on a pick up board that asking questions is bad. Then you never try it. You’ll spend the rest of your life not asking questions WITHOUT knowing! Do you realize how nonsense that is. I tried asking questions. Lots of questions. It’s perfectly fine for me. Works wonders. Did you ever try leaning IN? I have this buddy of mine. Patrick. This guys pulls all the time. A lot more than me. He’s pretty much always leaning in. He never touches chicks except when he goes for the make out. I never tried leaning in. Probably because leaning away works way too well lol. But anyway I just wanted to show a point.
Also, never asking questions about pick up has its advantages. You rarely get into useless and egotistic arguments about pick up which don’t make sense anyway since everything can work and everyone is different. But more importantly, you’re starting to look at game from a different perspective. You’re starting to see yourself as a guru, as someone that knows his stuff, as someone that can pull. You’re less trying to learn and more trying to pull. You’re more in the moment. You’re living it more. Your frame isn’t of someone that is learning game any more but of someone that is discovering game and teaching it to others. How is that for a self confidence boost? Remember when Jeffy said in The Jeffy Show that for a while he was only pulling during bootcamps? I think the same principle applies. You are your own pick up guru. Start acting like one.
I’d be curious to see how many people agree with this.
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