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So I've been reading lots of posts about people being complete losers. What I mean by that is, no girls, no money, no lifestyle, no health, no happiness.

You guys are f***ing losers. It's time for a change.

If you don't know me, I'm a cool ass African American (I'm not actually black).

I f*** tons of girls, I have money working for me (I don't work), I have awesome friends, I'm pretty fit and I travel pretty often which is what I like. I'm also an intern for RSD. Oh and I'm 21, and I used to be a loser just like you.

So if you are a complete loser in all areas of life and want a cool ass life in 1 year from now, 2 years from now, you need to start doing the following:

1. Move to a cheap city with a good weather, good night life and good working opportunity. Have a place with your own room near the bars and clubs. No suburb BS or shitty city.

2. Make good friends that like to go out and that encourage or pick up girls with you. I don't care if they are faggots with no game. They have to be good friends, you have to love them, and you need to go out with them.

3. Start going out minimum 4 nights a week. All night. You don't count the number of sets you open. Its a marathon, not a sprint. You open all night until you leave, and you leave when the bar closes and there is no more girls on the street. Don't go out alone and do 4 approaches. That shit doesn't work. Make friends. Beast all night.

4. Money: Start working on your money situation. Make money with a job, and invest your money into passive income streams. You will need to learn and specialize in one or a few income streams. Passive income are things like Websites (internet marketing), Buildings, Laundry mats, Vending machines, TVs with ads, Stocks, a business that you own, etc. You need to learn and specialize. And you need a f***ing job first to invest your money. Work at Mc Donald's if you don't have education I don't care. Live cheaply. No iphones, no blazers, no cars, nothing. You invest all the money you can and you eat rammens.

5. Read self help books, especially the ones recommended by the pua community. Those books will teach you game alone. Don't hang out on forums the only people giving advice on there don't get laid. Don't read pua ebooks, they only want to make money and they don't know shit. You want to be reading at least 10 books a year.

6. Work out and eat healthy. Do crossfit or P90X or anything you want. You need to get in shape. Getting laid isn't fun unless you are in shape. You don't want to die young. You want to be healthy. Its so important. Work out at least 3 times a week and more depending on what you do. If you need to lose weight, eat healthy and stop over eating and drinking (alchool and coke) you fat f***.

7. Start meditating. At least 20 minutes a day. Meditation will make your game 1000 times better. Brad does it. I don't know why it works. It just does. It's magical.

8. At some point take an RSD bootcamp. It will fix some of your game problem and make you get laid more.

9. Forget about TV, computer games, masturbating, eating donuts and all the things you think are fun. They are not fun. They are making you more of a loser every single day.

That's all. That's my life. Do that for a couple of years and you'll be a very rich, very successful and very happy man.

So about 3 years ago I was 19 years old. I had about $1000 to my name and a part time job as a security agent that paid $9 per hour. I had no education, no desire to study or work. All I wanted to do was travel and pick up chicks. I didn't feel this was possible and I was confused and depressed. I felt powerless.

I was so confused that I had signed up for this crappy life coaching program in Toronto. I wont mention the name but it was very crappy. Yet, the guy was a Millionaire Mind Intensive fan and he brought me along since it was free.

The seminar is 3 days long 10 hours or more a day of interactive talks and exercises (no boring stuff). Those guys are like Tony Robbins. They scream at you and brainwash you into thinking the right way.

Before I had beliefs such as:

"I'm too young to make money"
"I'm too stupid to make money"
"I'm too lazy to make money"
"My English isn't good enough to make money"
"You need money to make money"
"Making money is hard"
"Starting a business isn't possible for me"
"I don't want to be rich. Being rich is useless and not for me"

If you know anything about self improvement you know that with beliefs like that there's no way someone can be financially free aka "travel and pick up chicks" like I wanted to.

So after 30 hours of pure brain washing I eradicated all those beliefs and here's just some of the beliefs I have now:

"I manage my money better than anyone I know"
"Making money is not only easy, it is natural and does not require me to work a lot"
"My money works for me and makes me more money"
"Nothing is impossible in term of money. I can live any lifestyle I want"
"Even if I would happen to lose all my money and passive income sources, it does not matter because I know how to make money and it is not difficult"
"I am intelligent and driven enough to make as much money as my lifestyle requires"
"I am financially free and will always be"

Those are my real beliefs. You can ask my friends if you think I'm lying. They are more than beliefs. They are my convictions.

The seminar made a big difference in the way my life played out. You can sign up here if you want. You can sign up for the same 3 days seminar that I took for $97 (used to be free back in the day) or you can sign up for a one evening talk for free.

So guess what happened right after the seminar. I started working on my business. I had a friend I met while traveling. He introduced me to internet marketing. I didn't know jack at the time. I worked every single hour of everyday for 6 months. Do you think I could have done that with my old beliefs? Of course not I would have given up.

After that, I hired employees and stopped working. I managed my money well and saved and re-invested my profits. Do you think I could have done that with my prior beliefs? No I would have spent all my cash on hookers and blow (just kidding).

I started traveling and working whenever I wanted to. I still work from time to time. I had some rough time last September when all my websites got banned by Google. But I had $20k saved up and 10 trained employees ready to do work for me. So I wasn't screwed, because I had managed my money. Now 8 months later I make the same amount of money I was making before.

So you can imagine how sick my life as been ever since. I've been living a nice lifestyle downtown Montreal and Toronto, doing whatever I want, working out, going out every night and day. I even meditate one hour per day. Who has time to do that?

I lived in Thailand and Asia for 6 months, in Brazil for 2 months, in Florida for 2 months and I am now living in San Francisco. Now the only thing that keeps me from traveling is my love for Montreal and my crazy saving habits.

So anyway if you want to sign up just go here. Like I said before it seems that if you want to get the same 3 days seminar that I took it cost $97 but there is a free option also but it's only one evening.

Well first of all that won't be easy. There is no magic pill. You will have to work. All that bullcrap that you read on how to make money online quickly is a lie.

Also working on the computer is not a good lifestyle, so I don't recommend PPC (Pay per click) because it will never allow you to quit working. It's also very difficult to get into for beginners and even for experts it's difficult.

So what I recommend is SEO (Search engine optimization).

I got started with a completely free and open membership site called Thirty Day Challenge. They do make some money from ads, referrals and they have their own paid membership site once you finish the "Thirty day challenge". But I have never joined it and never will.

It is a simple formula that if you put a lot of work into it will work for sure.

How it works is you choose a market, you make a website, you build links to it and when you get visitors you sell affiliate products, ads or develop your own product and sell it.

It's not magic, it needs efforts, but it works. In my opinion everything else on the internet is a scam.

And I think if you really want to be successful at this you need to be able to see it. You need to be able to see the emotion that you make the girls feel. This is something that Jeff talks about in his bootcamp.

An example is like Alex in the video that got leaked. I've never met Alex but in this video he is way over self amusing and high energy and it's just the way he is. But if you remember he tells the girl something like "Ok maybe you think this is a little weird but I was conceived to this song and I really feel the love right now". And throughout the video he keeps making references to other men in australia being pussies and that he doesn't like that.

So the girl is kind of weirded out by this strange man that just came and talked to her, but she can rationalize that he is like that because of what he said and that it's normal. So she is not creeped out anymore and she can fully enjoy Alex's good sides even if they are outside of her reality.

But does he have to do it with all the girls? I don't think so, I think some of them will just fully love him when he's like that. They wont even question it they'll think that shit is normal.

So if he didn't calibrate his approach by saying that stuff then he would only pull chicks that love that side of him and don't judge it.

So some girls will love that side of you that is different or uncalibrated, but you will end up losing a lot of them fast unless you see it, and calibrate it to the girl.

This is why people that game like robot just spitting things at girls (whether is was a routine, improvised shit or caveman kino) suck at picking up chicks. They are just going through the moves without looking at how they make the women feel. This is something that Jeff talks about in his posts and bootcamps so I didn't pull it out of nowhere.

Yes you need to ignore the shit test, but you cant ignore what they feel.

I'll never reply logically to a woman's "You're creepy". But if I feel she is creeped out I will proactively do something to change it. That is the difference. If she says it she's testing you. If she feels it it's different, she's not testing you, that's how you're making her feel and she will probably leave soon unless you do something.

How it works for me is that I always get way too close to them too quickly and talk in their ears and hold their waist.

Some girls love that shit. Some girls think it's creepy as fuck. So with the girls that think it's creepy I make some kind of rationalization for them like "Oh Im sorry Im from Canada and this is my first day here Im really excited." Could be anything it's just the one I've been using this week.

So the fact that I can get away with being so close to them so quickly it's so powerful because maybe she gets comfortable around me quickly, or turned on or she rationalizes that she likes me or I dunno. Same with Alex, the fact that he can get away with being so self amusing and spitting so many words, Im sure it helps him a lot, Im not sure how lol but whatever.

Anyway I hope this makes sense, this is something that is not talked about very often here and I think it's massively important. Jeff refers to it as "Riding the emotionnal wave". I think it's important that there is an expression for it so that people put a label on the concept and internalize it.

It is beautiful. The beach, the scenery, the buildings, shops, the restaurants. There are palm trees everywhere. The beach is clean and the sea is blue.

There are a lot of things to do. I lived in a hostel at the corner of Washington Avenue and 9 Street and a lot of very cool clubs were at walking distance. The clubs are insanely expensive though.

There are tons and tons of restaurants. Everywhere is some kind of restaurant, bar, club, clothing store, art gallery and so on.

This attracts lots of people which is really cool if you like to walk around and talk to girls.

The girls are beautiful here. There are a lot of hot tourists from all over the world, or just girls from Miami that are really attractive. Lots of young people walking alone shopping or going to places. Walking is a common alternative because all the things are very close by. I love that because I like to walk myself.

The weather is nice. At the moment it is pretty cold but it's been very unusual for Florida. I think it's usually 15-30 Celsius during winter.

This is all I know for now. I will probably be here for longer so I will update when I learn more about Miami Beach.

You know when Ryan talks about cognitive congruence? Well it's all good to understand it and acknowledge that it's important, but yesterday I just realized that I have been experiencing it, a lot. And that it makes a huge difference in my ability to pick up girls.

First of all what is cognitive congruence? I'm not sure exactly but what it means to me is the way you act all day will influence the way you act at night when you go pick up. For example if in your life every time you interact with a human being you kind of shy away and ignore them, chances are when you go out at night it will not be easy to switch to confident and talkative mode. So your brain (cognitive) wouldn't be "congruent".

One thing that I've noticed for months now is that if I don't chill I can't pick up chicks. I mean I can go talk to them. I can touch them. I can make them laugh. But it will never go anywhere. I will never get any girl to actually like me. If I don't chill, I have zero game. If you're new to this you might look at me and think I have "alright" game because I'm approaching and getting reactions and getting my mouth moving. But if you look deeper I'm never building anything. If you look deeper I have no game.

Sometimes I'll hit up the bar and I'll just be in a natural chill state. I'll talk slow. I'll walk slow. When I meet a girl I'll just feel super comfortable with myself and enjoy the moment with her and it will totally work between us. Then I'll be like "OMG I have so much game, Im just chilling all the time and all these girls want me." Guys would ask me "Dave, how do you this, how to do that..." and I would just tell them to chill. They looked at me confused. Some of them told me they couldn't.

Then every once in a while I would go out to the bar and I can't chill. So I go up to girl, start talking to her and my mouth starts moving by itself, spitting crap. I grab the girl and try to take her somewhere even if it's too early, then I give up because I can't just chill and hang out there. I CAN'T! Then I take a pause and I'm like what is this, just chill Dave, you chill all the time, let's do it. Then I go talk to another girl. Can't chill! Again! What the hell. I was very confused by this behavior of mine for a long time. Until I met this Spanish dude.

Basically, one of my friends friend is from Tempa. And he is some kind of Spanish gangster. He talks like a gangster. He walks like a gangster. He calls women "hoes". Anyway you can imagine. So I meet him and he's just talking really slow and taking his time and walking really slow. It's just the way he is. He's always chilling in my definition of chilling. Anyway we met up before going to the bar with all my friends and I didn't think anything of it except that he was gangster and that I like gangsters lol.

Then I noticed throughout the night that every time he would go talk to a girl, he would keep chilling. He would just talk really slow and walk really slow and hang out and be chilling. He didn't have that much game but I'm sure he gets laid every once in a while, especially if he went out more. He was just chilling, making eye contact and listening to what the girl says while having a funny, sexual and low energy conversation. Then I was like, "damn this guy is like me when I'm being good."

At the end of the night, no one pulled any chick. I actually only talked to a few girls because I was to frustrated by my inability to chill and I knew it wouldn't go anywhere because I couldn't chill. Every time I went up to a girl I just kept spitting words and trying to lead her (that might sound good but trust me there MUST be chilling in between lol). F---ing Orlando I don't like it here and it messes with my head. So like I was saying, no one pulled that night and we were just hanging out after and still Spanish gangster is just chilling and enjoying life and he's just like "tonight was fun, I talked to a lot of hoes" in his gangster accent. I was quite envious of him at that moment and understood how others felt around me when I was being chill all the time. But why couldn't I be????

Then it hit me. Cognitive congruence. This guy is chill all the time, so how hard can it be for him to be chill when he goes to the bar to talk to women. Pretty damn easy. He doesn't have to change a thing. If you actually asked this guy to be a dancing monkey, I'm sure he would find it really difficult. Then I realized that when I have a very easy time to be chill is when I am chill all the time. When I had just come from my 10 days meditation retreat I was chill all the time because I had just spent 10 days chilling and meditating. I took my time to do everything because that's what I was used to doing. When you're at a meditation retreat, you can't do anything so even when you take a walk it's like a great event, you don't rush it because there's nothing to do afterward.

Also when I was in Montreal I was getting laid a lot and hanging out with girls a lot so during those times I was chilling all the time. Also I didn't work on my computer as much as I've been doing here which to me is an anti chill because when I work I always try to rush things and do 10000000 things at a time. So to me, if I chill in my everyday life, even when I'm walking to the toilet to take a piss or eating my bowl of cereal. If I do those things slowly and in a chill way. Which to a lot of you would refer to as "being in the moment" while doing them, then when I go out at night it will be super easy to be chill and pick up the ladies.

So if you have some kind of state of mind or something that helps you pick up girls (or helps your overall happiness), then you probably want to incorporate it in every moment of your life, this way it will be second nature to do it at the club and you will have lots of success.

First of all, what's good about Orlando?

The weather is nice in winter. Ever since I'm here it's been about 20 degrees Celsius. It gets chilly some days and warmer some other days but if you have a jacket you'll be fine.

I've heard during the summer though it's too hot to do anything.

The city also looks very very pretty. Everything looks new. Streets, houses, buildings, stores. They have lots of highways and streets filled with retail stores (The same big retail stores over and over again, nothing exciting). Everyone I've met live in very nice houses and neighborhoods even though they are broke, and I think it's because rent is affordable there.

Downtown looks really pretty. They have parks and trees and some tourists attractions, malls and shopping areas.

They also have Disney World and Universal Studios which I have not been because it's too expensive and I don't really have anyone I want to go with at the moment.

Now, what sucks about Orlando?

You need a car to do anything. Everything is spread out and far. It doesn't feel like a city at all. It feels like a suburb. There is no subway. You could take the bus but it's $2 each time and it takes forever to go anywhere.

But even if you could go anywhere in the bus, where would you go? Because honestly, there's nothing to do here. Everywhere is dead. Downtown is dead during the day. The parks, malls and tourist parks that are free to get in are dead as well. I like to pick up chicks during the day, but there's nowhere to do so here.

There doesn't seem to be any kind of cultural or fun event happening anywhere. Every week is the same. People go to the same places, do the same things.

If you don't live downtown (which is completely NOT affordable, like $700-900 a month for a room), then you need to drive to go to any restaurant or bar that is not a Taco Bell/Burger King. I hate driving and I don't even have a car. I like to walk.

Nightlife

The night life does exist, but it sucks. First of all it resembles the night life of a small city, because there's only a handful of bars/clubs and a few hundred people out on a Friday/Saturday night. On the week days there's usually one or two venues to go to on each day. The best bars/clubs all have expensive covers such as $5-15. Most people go there with a big group of friends and hop all in the same car. It makes it really hard to have a one night stand with any of them because they all live so far away because Orlando is so spread out.

There are like no after hours places most of the days. Last call is at like 1:45. I've seen several fights for no reasons which makes me very careful not to be too aggressive with girls I've just met.

In Montreal and Toronto, there's hundreds of bars, thousands of people partying on a Friday, chicks go to the bar with 1 or 2 friends to meet other people. There's places to go after the bar. You can walk to your house or cab there.

Girls

There's not that many girls, and they are not very attractive.

People are not nice. I go talk to them are they like at me like I'm weird. It's like they've never met a new person in their entire lives. They are weird and snobbish.

I know how to pick up chicks. I've been doing it for years. I know what I do works.

Economy

Everyone I know here has a shitty job and is struggling for money. They all wish they could leave this place and go somewhere else. They have like 2 jobs that pay $8 per hour and they try to pay the bills. Plus they need to have cars and pay for covers at the bars. This is getting them nowhere.

In conclusion

My roommates are amazingly chill. They take me everywhere and we have so much fun. Even though most people are pricks, I still end up meeting a hot girl that is normal and likes me every night. Most of the time they also hate Orlando so we get along. It's worth it to be here just to have a 10 minutes conversation with a chick that I really enjoy, even if chances are against me to take it anywhere.

I would say that my ability to pick up chicks has improved at least 10 fold. Actually, when I look back I feel like I had absolutely no game at the time (And I had been in the community for 2 years).

I slept with 8 chicks in the last 3 months (Since my bootcamp). Which is almost a double of what I had already been with and I'm 21 years old.

I've pulled and made out with countless chicks. I've made great friends and great connections with a lot of men and women. I definitely think the bootcamp has a lot to do with it.

The bootcamp gave me a little boost of confidence right after which is great momentum for people starting out.

Ryan gave me personalized advice after seeing me talking to girls which was to chill out mostly and be more real and genuine.

The seminar was new stuff that I had never heard of. It totally changed the way I see game.

I feel a lot more confident about my ability to pick up chicks. Actually, now it doesn't make sense to me to not be getting laid since it's so easy to at least find a couple of girls every month.

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