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RSD (Real Social Dynamics)’s golden rule is that “Whatever you feel, she feels.” This rule is crucial but I push it one bit further with my golden rule:

Your state of mind is everything.

The reason behind this is simple. You can’t lie or fake what you’re feeling. If you feel nervous. You will look nervous. But that’s fine you can be nervous and be attractive. If you feel like you can’t sleep with the girl, you will look like you can’t. And that is not fine.

When you walk around looking for girls, in the bar or on the street, think to yourself that you can sleep with them. That you can pick them up. Easily. Allow yourself to think “I can sleep with that girl if I wanted to and if I went and talked to her.” Have a grin on your face. Have the relaxed and piercing eyes that a man that knows he can sleep with a girl has. But don’t focus on those body language elements. Focus on how you feel. Your body language will come naturally. Put yourself in that state of mind of when you knew you could sleep with that girl.

Walk around repeating to yourself “Yes, it’s on”. When you see a girl you like, instantly think “I can sleep with her. Easily.” Then when you go talk to her keep that feeling by repeating in your head that it’s on.

What will happen is that all the important stuff such as body language, tonality, smile, eye contact, funny non logical talking, statements of intent, etc. will all take care of themselves naturally because you’re in that state of mind.

Feeling overly happy doesn’t help that much to pick up chicks. You will make the chick feel happy but that’s all. What you need to be feeling is that you can pick her up. Right now. For sure. Tonight. Bring her home. If you feel that, the girl will like you for sure and she’ll go home with you a lot of the times. If you’re just in state and feeling good but you aren’t feeling that you can do it. You’ll just roll up to them, make them feel good and there will be no pick up. Of course your feelings change through the night so you could open with just feeling good then move into the “I can pull” mode which is what I’ve been doing most of the time, but why not just feel like that from the start? It works a lot better.

And if you can’t feel that way, it means you’re not good enough at lying to yourself. You’re not good enough at controlling your own state. I think it’s an essential skill because life requires us to be in different state of mind all the time. Just practice it all the time, anywhere, for no reason. Try to make yourself feel happy, or like a pimp, or relaxed, or excited just sitting on a chair. Your thoughts becomes feelings. Think about happy stuff, you will feel happy. Think like a pimp, you will feel like a pimp. If every time you see a hot girl, you lie to yourself and tell yourself that you can sleep with her and smile, You will start feeling that way. Because thoughts become feelings. Here’s a good quote that has become internet famous:

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

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